I was just sitting in bed with the sun shining in eating gooey dates (yes breakfast in bed) and started thinking….
One thing i’ve noticed over the years (since being a promoter of a high carb raw vegan lifestyle), is something interesting happens when certain folks/fans of ours fall off this lifestyle. They promptly go back to eating tortured animal bits and pieces (which is extremely saddening for me), and become bitter, resentful, have a penchant to lie and basically all round HATEFUL of us :-/ Out of the blue WE are now responsible for how THEY feel. It’s kinda like we suddenly have kids we didn’t know about! I thought Durianriders vasectomy took care of that already! ;-O Please remember we aren’t your parents, we are not responsible for the actions you take in life and promoting fruits and vegetables is NOT dangerous! Sigh…I won’t lie, it IS disappointing. Durianrider, he is the MOST giving person I know, he loves nothing more than to see other people succeed in life and gives SO much of himself to increase the chance of this happening. His methods of helping some folks may not always make him popular BUT they are REAL and he is a very kind person with a heart of gold.
What I find ironic is the recommendations we gave these undercarbed folks WAS freely accepted (and met with unending gratitude) but is now deemed to be dangerous, irresponsible and unfair!! Thoughts of a lack of gratitude come to mind, also the phrase ‘take it or leave it’. As creators of the community ‘30 bananas a day‘ we are just here providing a helpful platform to those WANTING to succeed on a high carb raw vegan lifestyle. As a member if this does not suit then you are of course free to leave at any time and we *never* ban anyone for NO reason. The advice we give is based not only on our personal experience over the years but decades of research from people like Dr Doug Graham and Dr John McDougall. We are not holding a gun to your head screaming “EAT YOUR FRUIT OR YOU WILL DIE!!” lol no, we are simply answering your questions over the internet, the best we can, with advice that has worked for ourselves and for many other people. The message is basically carb up and follow your heart. How AWFUL of us!
So this got me thinking…
As an adult member of a developed nation with access to the internet, with our basic needs met –> Is it EVER someone else’s fault for the actions we choose to take in life or for the situations we are faced with?
For me the answer is obvious. Of course it’s no one else’s fault/responsibility for the choices we make in life. We are our own person right? It’s no one else’s fault what WE choose to do with the the advice others give us. When we become a victim and viciously point the finger of blame at those who tried to generously help us it only damages OUR self-esteem even more and to be honest, makes us look pretty silly. It’s very childish to blame those who influenced us in the past for our lack of success today.
I used to stagnate in a ‘poor me’ undercarbed victim mentality too but ya know what? It NEVER used to get me anywhere good. I just became a magnet for more situations that fed my victim mentality, because at the end of the day I was the only one who needed to change. Many people like taking the easy way out because what’s the alternative? Actually having to face up to our personal responsibility and….wait for it….CHANGE!. For sure other people can have a strong influence on our lives (especially growing up) but there comes a point where, if our life sucks, it’s time to step up and own it. That has to be the first step towards freedom.
As it did for me, I totally understand it takes guts for us to step up and take responsibility for our own actions because it exposes our ego to what we might see as failure. What is failure? I see it as a necessary stepping stone to success… unless of course you LIVE there. When we become a victim, our lack of success is never our fault, it’s always someone else’s fault. This outlook allows our ego to feel safe behind a wall of lies and as a result we begin to die inside …:-(
Granted we may find ourselves in a tough situation, problems are a sign of life BUT is the situation itself responsible for our feelings of dispair ? Or , is what we THINK of the situation and how we respond to it the real problem? By adopting an attitude of gratitude we can face any challenges life throws at us. There is no need to throw up our hands and give up.
Lastly, what you put in your mouth is up to you, I’m sorry to say but I’m not your mummy and Durianrider is not your daddy
All we can do is recommend certain foods and quantities of those foods, and why – the rest is up to you.
“You must take personal responsibility. You cannot change the circumstances, the seasons, or the wind, but you can change yourself. That is something you have charge of.
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